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    Renfield.

    I know it’s violent, campy, and corny, but it’s a damn good lesson in what Narcissistic Personality Disorder is and what it does to people. It helped me frame my own abuse and trauma at the hands of abuser’s NPD, in ways that helped me break free from those people later on. Moreover, once you’ve been victimized this way, one has a tendency to fall back into bad habits with abusers. The film just gave me something profound to recall when exercising mindfulness around this cycle, and how to exit quickly.

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      Similar experience for me with the Babadook. It illustrates that you will never be rid of your mental problems and trauma, that trying to be cured or normal is a fool’s errand. They’re things you’ll have to deal with forever, and the more you confront them the less they’ll control you.

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    I saw Bladerunner as a teenager and it affected me so much I’m now a grown-ass man living in a cyberpunk dystopia. Follow your dreams.

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    Unironically, Street Fighter. That scene where he says, “For you, the day Bison graced your village was one of the most important days of your life. But for me, it was Tuesday.”

    I think about it a lot in dealing with other people. It was supposed to make him sound like even more of a jerk, but I actually think it’s a good commentary on what it’s like to deal with the public. Imagine being a doctor. Sometimes, you get to deliver good news. Sometimes bad. Sometimes you can do something, and sometimes you just can’t. If the doctor tried to care as much as the patients, they’d be emotionally destroyed in short order. For them, it HAS to just be a Tuesday.

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    The best part about this movie was the build-up to the pizzas. They shadow mention the pizzas a few times, and you see him really take down other things. Hard to watch, but when they finally DID show up. I was fucking ready to watch this guy take down two larges.

    It was almost a magical moment. The movie is awesome. Everyone else refuses to watch it with me. Personally, I have only seen it once, but will take the journey with another willing human. Its a great film.

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    office space had some great eye opening lessons:

    • you can say no to overtime
    • some tasks are totally not important, and its insanely important to have a priority order, otherwise you go insane.
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      I mean, I feel like the real lesson from Office Space is the importance of having an exit strategy.

      People work in grey cubicals or Applebee’s because they feel like they don’t have a choice. Everyone in these jobs is unhappy, because if they believed in their ability to find happiness elsewhere they would already be gone.

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        I set low initial expectations at my job, automated and simplified nearly every task. I work less than 20 hours a week on average. I have time for basically all my hobbies and get to spend tons of time with my kid and wife. It may be a grey cubicle and annoying but it pays well and i can get fulfillment elsewhere. Feel like anybody trying to get fulfilling experiences from work is looking at the picture upside down

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    The Matrix made me realise my whole reality was a lie and now I’m pro-Patriarchy, pro-Authoritarian and pro-conformity just like the characters.

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      I think people don’t realize you’re making fun of manosphere and alt right creators co opting the terms from the movies like red pill and others.

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          RoboCop and Starship Troopers (by the same director, no less) are other examples of people completely missing the point, and taking the film at face value.

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          Fight Club is such a good movie. It seems like an awful lot of people don’t understand it at all. The same with American Psycho. You definitely nailed it with the right people walking away with the wrong message.

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              Correction: “Some of those that work forces are the same that burn crosses.”

              Zack’s saying that the police aren’t your friends, and if you’re a certain ethnicity some of them are actively trying to eradicate you.

              In that context, that MAGAts are championing that song is even more sinister than them just missing the point.

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    I couldn’t even finish that movie and had to stop after about 30 min (not because it was bad, but just way too depressing lol)

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        I honestly get where they were coming from. My “I couldn’t finish it because it made me too sad” was oyasumi punpun

        I only finished the second of 13 total volumes and I wasn’t tearing up or anything, but I developed a sense of… dysphoric dread, I guess, from reading it

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        I mean I don’t really want to spend my free time feeling like absolute shit because I chose to watch a movie

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      Had the same thing happen to me with the movie Hereditary (although I later finished watching it, because of the praise it was getting). I thought “Yeah it’s good, but why would people watch this, why would they do this to themselves?”.

      I never understood miseryporn and honestly MFW people are enjoying it:

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        Midsommar left me depressed for about a week, so I emotionally detached myself while watching Hereditary by playing on my phone lol. I totally skipped Beau is Afraid.

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          I’m gonna spoil something but literally at the end of Beau is Afraid, the audience just disconnects and leaves uncaringly at his misery.

          Like that movie is a layer of meta meta meta commentary about the people watching his films and also the misery of existence itself. It’s not good but it’s definitely art.

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          Oof, not the best movies to watch after another.

          That was also a movie I wanted to see, but after Hereditary I thought “nah, I’m good”. Probably won’t watch another Ari Aster film, ever.

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      I hated just about everyone in The Whale. Everyone who was enabling him was an accomplice to a murder, in my opinion. I also found the main character to be so revolting that I couldn’t muster much sympathy beyond my aforementioned blame towards his enablers.

      I love challenging media, but that one had nearly nothing redeemable about it. I’d rather have a crack problem than a food problem after seeing that movie.

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        I wondering if I should just never see that movie. I know a whole household of co-enablers that I’m trying to distance myself from. Three people have died from being overweight so far since I’ve met them and a fourth collapsed and shit himself while at my place in what looked like a diabetic shock. He then had the nerve to criticize my home.

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          Then you’ve already lived the whole plot. There should be a way to report people like that so the court can put a restraining order on them.

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            Maybe I should make them watch it then. They’ll either fix themselves or stop talking to me. Win-Win.

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              But look at the downsides. You’ll have to hire huge people to collapse and shit in your home. Who would want that? What the fuck dude?

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      I often eat my dinner while watching a movie.

      This is not a movie I’d recommend for that.

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    If Anon is anything like me, my advice for next steps would be to start learning about metabolic health.

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      If you keep the weight they’ll be double right. If you lose the weight they’ll only be half right!

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      But have you avoided getting smarter too? If not, then they’ve already won.