Work all week, too tired to do something fun. Corporate profits unreasonably high and now I can’t afford to engage in activities. Individualistic, nuclear family, isolation because communes reduce profits. Breathing poisoned air, drinking contaminated water, eating trash, refined food. Lost in a maze of suburbs, battling long transit times, alone in a sea of cars. Everyone’s left for jobs, or busy working jobs, no time to meet new people.
What is, like, the point?
Do we sit in his emotional wasteland, producing for an other, alone and without the energy to do anything but work until we get sick and can’t afford healthcare / are told by doctors the elderly are not their priority as they’re no longer productive?
These are my thoughts every day right now, and I don’t know how to get out of that depression loop.
I’m about a year and a half in remission from cancer. I started a new career to better my work-life balance and take care of my health. I thought surviving would give me a rejuvinated outlook on life, and I would “enjoy the little things” more.
No. When does that start?
Instead, I wake up every day thinking, what is the point? Who am I living for if I don’t have the time, money, or resources to do anything that brings joy to my life.
Move to a new country. Make life work for you, not the opposite.
They don’t have enough time/energy/money to find fulfilling repast on the weekends and your advice is to leave the country?
Such sage advuce should only be dispensed by Paris Hilton; “Stop being poor!”
So easy.
I’ll admit, because of my Christian upbringing, I have begun to wonder if this is Hell. Just enough hope for you to know that it could be better, but no memory of anything but this. There’s enough people not suffering (or at least pretending not to) to give hope, but no ability to ever change it. Isolation, pain, monotony, and just enough joy for most people to keep marching onward until they die, hoping that eventually it will get better.
If this is a recurring thought I would highly suggest pointing you towards Buddhism. I highly recommend the book “in the face of fear” Buddhist wisdom for challenging times. It has writings from all sorts of intelligent people, and does a good job of explaining how to transform them into tools.
I recommend drugs:
- ✓ Cheap compared to other hobbies like travel or gambling or having a family
- ✓ Meet new real and not so real friends
- ✓ Can make your suffering aka life shorter
Sceintific cookies Butter: Grind about 1-2g of active ingredient Heat oven (non convection) to 118c (245f), use baking tray & parchment paper to bake 30-40 min, stirring every 15 min or so to bake evenly, remove and cool. Prep rice cooke to “keep warm” mode Empty the water, add butter & prepared active ingredients Heat for 2.5hrs Check every 20 min or so to make sure it doesn’t go above 93c (200f) Cool NOTE weigh butter before adding to recipe, as there may be some water loss during heating-just top up with regular butter/margerine 36 60g cookies 395 g brown sugar 225 g granulated sugar 25 g vanilla sugar 350 g Veg margarine or butter 25 g oil 59 ml water 0 pinch salt mixer #2 speed cream together about 5 minutes 900 g ap flour 3 1/2 g baking soda 20 g baking powder combine dry ingredients add slowly to mixer 150 g chopped chocolate (vegan) combine to mix bake 60g scoop 200C for 7 minutes SCIENCE!
You can sometimes make coffee or a podcast. The rest is haram.
Part of boredom is simply lacking direction and not knowing what to do/where to even start
Press escape key to check the objectives. Someone clearly didn’t complete the tutorial.
RTFM, right?
My tutorial went like this
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Press X t
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Surprisingly, I’ve found the most fulfillment from raising and caring for my three-year-old daughter. I always feel immense pride when I’m tidying up the house and come abroad a pile of drawings or an arrangement not only of her toys, but whatever things she’s found of mine (ie; the Peewee Herman action figure I keep beside my PC). But as fulfilling as it is, children are also inadvertently vampires and drain you of nearly everything you have. So I have to take pleasure in other things as well, like reading fiction, playing games with my wife, and spending time in nature. What I really need is a good mushroom trip through the forest, but it’s been several years since I’ve been comfortable enough to step away from responsibility and parenthood to do something like that, even though it’s a wonderful tool to bring one’s self back to earth and get your brain firing again.
Highly recommend trying that if you’re in the same mental cycle as OP. Definitely don’t opt for children if your goal is fulfillment, though. You may gain something huge, but you’re also signing off on the other side of your life. It’s certainly not a good fit for everyone. You’d think this obvious advice, but a lot of people do just that and wind up miserable and resentful, and their kids in turn grow up with less love and respect than they could otherwise have.
My brother told me to have kids. He said raising his daughter was the best thing he’s ever done. I don’t disagree, she’s awesome.
I don’t find it surprising that being a parent is super rewarding if you do it well. I can’t imagine being a parent who raises a shitstain who does something terrible and having to live with that.
I’m coming up on 40 years old and 14 years with my wife. We’re pretty honest and open with people when they ask why we don’t have and don’t want kids. We have a nice house, good careers, and could easily afford it, but we just chose not to. The really scary thing is that I’ve had several friends candidly tell me they wish they never had kids. They love their kids more than anything, but they regret having them. I think our position makes it easier for people to confide in us and share those feelings, but I find that situation dreadful. Also, I realize that feelings change over time so they may feel differently now or in the future.
As someone who’s currently struggling with this decision, it’s good to hear that you made a choice not to have kids, and don’t regret it 14 years on.
I probably have the means to raise a child, but I’m not sure if I want to sacrifice the things I see my friends sacrificing to raise a child well (not to mention the world sucks and all that).
The thing I’m most worried about is regretting my choice either way when I get older (ie having a child and regretting it, or not having a child and regretting that).
I mean there is a chance you can do everything well and still end up with a shitstain of a human when having kids. Sociopaths and Narcissists sometimes just happen.
Sex drugs and rock and roll. What more do you want
What sex and drugs?
Life is absurd. Take drugs, make mistakes, explore, learn, love, create. Make peace with the absurd. Sit in it for a while and see what happens. The dude abides…
As Mrs. Draper says, boring people get bored.
Boredom is good, as long as you let your mind wander. If you fill it with social media and other low effort crap, then boredom is just time wasted.
Boredom and letting your mind wander will lead to something interesting.
so true. just go outside, no phone, and sit under a tree for an hour. you won’t feel bored after long, in fact you’ll probably feel great. I garuntee it
As other mentioned, you can have a hobbies, just do things and discover. It can be dancing, playing tennis, drawing, listening and collecting cd and vinyl and so on. Some hobbies require money some others not, it’s up you and what you want to do.
There is no point. At least, there’s no overarching design or plan behind your existence. Instinctively we are driven to survive, so the question is: what else?
While we exist, we have senses which can provide pleasure or pain, so the most selfish answer would be to seek pleasures and enjoy them while you can. The correlary being to minimize pain or suffering, which serves as a check on unrestrained pleasure.
I like to take this a step further and work not only to optimize my own pleasure, but the pleasure of others around me. Then guilt is no longer an issue because your pleasure is complementary to theirs. They benefit when you reduce their pain and vice versa.
I believe the original problem stems from artifically self-imposed limitations and expectations on what should be, rather than engaging with what is and imagining what could be.
Get some damn hobbies! Does she just sit in a chair with a blank face while listening to podcasts? Auditory media is meant to supplement another activity no wonder shes so damm bored
That is a very odd take on auditory media, from my perspective. Do you not focus on music or podcasts you listen to? Are you always doing something else?
Doing other things at the same time helps me focus on whatever I’m listening to.
I fidget a lot so it would be distracting to sit still and just listen.
I’m bored
Well, go do something!
In this economy?
“Bored” pisses me off. There’s too much to do, to learn, to experience to be fucking bored. I mean, unless you’re stuck at work or some shit.
There may be too much to be bored, but there’s just the right amount and more to be habitually depressed!
Well, boredom is not depression.
Speaking from experience depression has the power to render everything you used to find passion and joy in utterly unenjoyable. It sucks, and you get bored, and then you feel bad that you are bored and not doing the things you are supposed to enjoy. Have some empathy for those of us struggling :)
OK. You are talking about depression. I am talking about boredom. They are not the same thing, though one may be symptomatic of the other. If you think your boredom is a result of depression, I suggest you seek help somewhere that’s not an online forum.
Actually that’s a pretty major and common symptom of depression.
Which, again, doesn’t mean they are the same thing.
I am bored and I have plenty to do, the bigger selection makes it impossible to choose and then I do not choose.
In the words of Neil Peart, “If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.”
Work on making a better one.
Good job Neil, you cured depression with one easy fix!
I don’t think anyone, particularly Neil were he still with us, would suggest that his observation is supposed to be a cure for depression.
There is but all of it takes MONEY!! and TIME!!!. And i don’t have enough alcohol around me to not be bored. Best I can do is video games(I’m lucky to have a laptop).
gaming is great (I usually play an hour or 2 a day) but break it up a bit. maybe do an online micro credential, you can normally find free short courses. learn a language (easy to do for free if you have internet and some time). learn a new skill. learn design so you can put the laptop to work. and every now and then, when gaming burns you out, learning is too much and you literally have no chance to do anything else, sit under a tree for a little bit. yes, even at night. it’ll help
I have ADHD, my time is fucked once I get into gaming.
If you have a laptop that can play video games, there is so much else you can do. Not that there’s anything wrong with video games. Video games are awesome.
I can, learned to use Linux. Learning python now. But I was talking about real world things like camping, and going on trips, watching snowfall(I’ve never seen snowfall), going to the beach or the zoo. You can only spend so much time in the virtual world, but the real world takes money and time.
Imagine having access to the Internet and say you are bored.
Damn… what in the younger-millenial hell is this take?
Maybe drop the entitlement and stop passively waiting for someone else to provide some meaning and purpose to your life. Read a book, take a walk in a park, adopt a pet, learn to cook, play a board game with a friend, smoke a joint and watch the sun set.
I get that it’s probably supposed to be some generic “capitalism is ruining the world” sentiment, but this person just sounds insufferable.
About as insufferable as this comment.
TIL being depressed = entitled millenial
Didn’t you know? Being sad didn’t exist before millennials came and ruined being happy, like everything else!
Nobody wants to be happy anymore!
Happy? In this economy?!
All those things combined doesn’t make up for all the bullshit we have to endure to afford to do that.
And no matter what our bodies still rot and die, and your brain isn’t getting backed up to “the cloud” either so might as well have never existed in the first place is a valid sentiment.
Read a book
They closed the library cause it didn’t make any money
take a walk in a park
The animals all left the park due to habitat loss and the air in the park isn’t safe to breathe
adopt a pet
One income isn’t enough to pay for pets anymore, and two incomes means the pets are neglected
learn to cook
The family owned grocery store went bankrupt due to inflation, now you can only get food from the McDonald’s and the gas station
play a board game with a friend
Most people don’t have friends anymore, it’s a well documented phenomenon. Probably caused by capitalism
smoke a joint and watch the sun set.
Cops will throw you in prison for it
Peak doomerism that actually proves the point that everyone disagreed with.
Be boring and get bored. Find a fuckin hobby or something
