• PhilipTheBucket@ponder.cat
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    The culture shift is stark sometimes when you watch old stuff.

    On the other hand, don’t let them turn that into an excuse. You know what dealt with trans rights in a pretty honest, raw, and understanding way, in the mid 1980s? Fucking Hill Street Blues. One of the cops gets together with a woman, he’s happy to be with her, and then the other cops start giving him hell for it because she used to be a man. He gets disgusted and angry, goes over to her place, and she lectures him about it and sets him straight, tells him to figure out if he wants to be with her, but don’t try to turn who I am into some kind of thing I did to you, or make me feel bad about it. He sort of accepts it, because she clearly has a point, and that’s the end of the episode.

    Hill Street Blues, man.

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      Yeah, I had a pretty sheltered childhood because I remember lots of good shows with a lot less of those issues. I watched a lot of sci-fi though, which IME tends to be a bit more forward-thinking. Not super surprising if you think about it

      Doctor who had every type of queer back in the mid-late 2000s. From a trans “last human” to lesbian aliens

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        Doctor who had every type of queer back in the mid-late 2000s. From a trans “last human” to lesbian aliens

        Wait, that “bitchy trampoline” was trans? How is that even possible with so few body parts left?

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            She’s also a conwoman, which is kinda unfortunate and ties into upsetting stereotypes and tropes.

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              There’s enough examples of positive trans or otherwise characters in Doctor Who that it should be fine. You should be able to use queer characters as villains so long as them being queer isn’t part of their motivation.

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                I just dislike/am suspicious of a trans character whose main traits are that she is duplicitous and obsessed with unnecessary cosmetic surgeries. I’m not anti queer villains, but I bristle at stereotypes about queer individuals being used as their villainous traits.

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                  I definitely see your point, and this might be a bit of hope posting but they did turn her around a bit. It was 2005 when she was just an evil trampoline (oh my god I think I just made a connection. Say that out loud a time or two), but then in the next season she realizes how much prettier she was before all of the surgery and how much nicer it felt to be kind. Of course, she only has this realization moments before death but I want to believe that there’s an actual positive statement in there

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      One of Al Pacino’s best movies, Dog Day Afternoon, is still a very relevant movie to this day and was released in 1975.

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      Watched Ace Ventura a few years ago for the first time since I was a kid. I remembered the whole trans reveal thing. Never put together as a kid they were implying that it was part of that character being mentally ill and completely forgot about Ace and the cops freaking out after finding out.

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        Yeah. It’s absolutely nuts.

        In the 60s, if you were a man in a movie, you could hit women if they were getting crazy, to set them straight.

        In the 80s, the heroes of movies could commit rape (Revenge of the Nerds) or child molestation (Indiana Jones) and still be the heroes of the movies.

        In the 90s, the simple fact of a character being gay, or God forbid trans, was its own comedic element, without anything additional needing to be added.

        Things have changed. Like changed a lot.

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    Fun fact: the term was literally invented by the British tabloid press to explain how (football superstar and husband of Victoria “Posh Spice” Beckham) David Beckham could wear a sarong without being secretly gay.

    I wish I was making it up but that’s genuinely the origin of the term 🤦

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    Metrosexual 2033, Metrosexual Last Light, and Metrosexual Exodus

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    When I was growing up “f!!!ot” wasn’t even seen as a cuss word, it was just a burn you called your friends all the time. We didn’t really think about it until I was 16 and one of our friends came out as gay. My whole friend group kind of had it click at the same time that 1. We didn’t care that he was gay and 2. It was probably pretty fucking rude to call everything we didn’t like “g!y” and call eachother “f!g” as an insult. I think that realization happened for a lot of people who had gay friends in my generation, and it’s part of what helped lead to the level of acceptance and support the LGBT community has now.

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    Asian dude who went to high school in the 90s.

    We were constantly called metro or straight up gay because we dressed like BTS before BTS was born.

    But they called us that in a hateful way.

    Ya 90s high school sucked for minorities.

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    Me in the 2000s: No lotion, no conditioner, no umbrella, no scarf. Just ashy skin, nasty hair, and choking on the rain and cold.

    Not because I was afraid of being made fun of, but because I was stupid and gross.

    You young GenZ homies knowing how to groom are the real champs.

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    I used to get called gay because I rolled the sleeves up on my shirt. Also because I worked with a gay guy and occasionally had lunch with him, maybe half a dozen times a year. The odd thing is that I had a girlfriend (same one 22 years later) who these idiots knew about.

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    Wait, shorts were gay? Does that include cargo shorts? Cuz there were a lot of cargo shorts at the time.

    Source: used to wear cargo shorts back then. I still do, but I used to too.

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        No they mean a certain type of shorts that end above the knees. Not the shorts that are basically three quarters pants. The shorter they were the gayer you’d be.

        Gay:

        Not gay:

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          Ohh, I distinctly remember that showing your knees was gay. But not as gay as bending over to pick up a pencil without bending your knees for it. It meant you wanted it up the ass then and there, there was no other conceivable reason.

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            Haha I learned the habit of properly lifting and not breaking your back this way. Looks like school taught me something practical after all.

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          unless you’re wearing running shorts in which case the length of the shorts is inversely related to how good/fast of a runner you are.

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          Thank god I grew up in Europe. I would’ve been gay as fuck in America.

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            The not gay ones are hella comfortable looking. Not sure about the gay ones, I’ve never really been into that type, I prefer my shorts really loose and the pockets big enough to hold 2 liter bottles

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        It was only if they fell above the knees that made you gay. If they fell below the knee or were basketball shorts, you were fine.

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        Well the term originated in Britain where they weren’t that popular at the time, and like the post says it was only if you wore short too much.

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        I can remember getting shouted at from a moving car for wearing shorts circa 2006, it was a thing.

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          Just people shouting invectives at you as they drove past, is that still a thing? I remembered it happening quite a bit back then, and it would ruin my day each time.

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      Can’t even wear my chartreuse short-shorts with JUICY printed on the butt without people thinking I’m gay

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    Before we had been introduced, my wife’s BFF told her I might be gay because I like opera.

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    Hell the 2000’s were bad - but it was just an extension to decades, if not centuries of homophobia. Watch the first 5 minutes of Eddie Murphy’s RAW to see what was socially acceptable to say in the late 70’s, early 80’s.

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      In an effort to show my wife the things I loved as a kid, I put on Eddie Murphy’s stand up. The intro was brutal.

      After about 15 minutes, she asked me if we can stop watching.

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    Was a mid 2000s hipster wearing skinny jeans and bright colors. Non hipster girls thought I was gay. Honestly frat bros were generally more pleasant and if they thought I was gay never said anything and just handed me a beer.

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      and, how is your husband ?

      /jk

      somehow not being gay while not being gay was important while the real gays got accepted more. maybe it was a side effect of higher acceptance. kids of that time had to visibly distance themselves from stereotypical gay behaviour to appear more conformist?

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    I have a degree in musical theatre and am a member of a music oriented fraternity. The fraternity was called “the gay” fraternity by the typical frat bro organizations within the last decade. Its not just relegated to the early part of the 2000s.

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      The gay theatre kid has been a stereotype forever, but they literally had to invent a word to describe guys who showered and wore something that wasn’t a T-shirt because that was enough for even women to think you were gay. The homophobia was so bad back then that you could possibly lose your job if people thought you were gay because you used hair gel and dressed well.

      The 90s and 2000s were something else.

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      No lie. I had guys hit on me back then and all but run when I said, no thanks, I’m flattered but I’m straight.

      “They said bad things about gays in the 2000s!”

      Oh my sweet summer child, gays used to be hunted coming out of gay bars.

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          LOL, back then I didn’t know Freddie Mercury or Rob Halford were gay. Yeah, that’s how society was.

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              I remember liking that movie and it seemed they made no bones about him being bi.

              Were you thinking his sexuality should have been the primary focus? Because I think the man would rather be remembered primarily for his music.

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                The film makes it seem as if he was supposed to be with Mary. The gay relationship we see throughout the film is tied to the partying and drugs (and was made up). His actual relationship with Hutton, who he spent like a full decade of his life with, is relegated to the end.

                In the film, we see being gay = partying, drugs, HIV. The man he ended his life with, who he loved, receives far less screen time than the evil fictionalized producer. There was an opportunity to show a real positive and loving gay relationship, and the choice was made to prioritize showing up a made up toxic one.

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    I been watching some movies and TV shows from the early 2000s as a nostalgia trip with my wife and man there were some terrible lessons. We talked about the homophobia and transphobia but the misogyny, body image and sexualization of teens. The skin women being called fat with the fashion that only looked good on thin thin thin women. The insistence that there was nothing worse than being a virgin. (While the schools were doing an abstinence only education BTW). The countdown clocks to when every female celebrity turned 18 everywhere. It’s surreal to think that message was everywhere.

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      Shallow Hal comes to mind and one of the reasons I have a difficult time enjoying Jack Black.