• AItoothbrush@lemmy.zip
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    6 hours ago

    Idk i find like 80% of women i know attractive, its just that i have such confidence problems i dont ask anybody out.

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    10 hours ago

    That’s been something hard about transitioning, being aware of how fewer and fewer people find me attractive the further I go. Ah well, it’s not like I was going to find a partner anyways, looks really never came into play in the first place.

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    14 hours ago

    I feel like this meme was made by a gen z kid that grew up with filtered pictures being normal

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    Over the years of talking with my wife about who we find attractive, she has realized I find almost all women attractive in some ways and normally the ones that are supposed to be attractive i find less attractive. She hated this realization because she applied it to herself, and it made her feel bad… I just find the good in most people, that’s all!

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      There’s a coworker of mine that when the topic arises and he gets asked what is his preference (in terms of the types of women he likes) his response is “women” 😂

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    23 hours ago

    Now try finding someone you find attractive and who also finds you attractive in return (it’s impossible).

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      21 hours ago

      I did a calculation once about my chances of finding a compatible long-term partner, inspired by the Drake Equation and using many many assumptions. The numbers are not good: ~22 out of 8 billion.

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        That seems absurdly low. Are you sure that all of your criteria are non-negotiable? And entirely uncorrelated?

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          Look I wasn’t completely serious about it, there’s no way to actually calculate something like that.
          For example what’s the fraction of people that find me attractive. It could range from 0.05 to 0.5. I have no way of knowing.

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        As a married man, I gotta say you’re probably selling yourself short or have unrealistic expectations of a partner.

        Remember that whoever you’re going to date is a person, not a robot. People are not quantifiable. One day they may be a dick, the next they may be pleasant. Some people are willing to compromise and others aren’t. Man, woman, or other, it doesn’t matter. If you’re not willing to compromise something, you’re never going to find someone.

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          11 hours ago

          I like reminding my single friends that 73% of Americans are considered overweight. 41% are obese.

          A shocking amount of my male friends are overweight or obese and refuse to date overweight women.

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            We could all lose a few pounds but sharing a meal is a huge thing, take that thicc person out and enjoy meal with another human being you animals. You might even find you have some commonality and you’ll feel slightly less isolated when the meal is done.

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        18 hours ago

        I only need to make 1 assumption to solve that equation for me

        0% of people would find me attractive

        QE fucking D

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    I’m bi myself and a shut in. How do you find people in general I don’t know.

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      From what I understand if you just stay in front of the computer that they will magically manifest inside your home.

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        I’ve heard that it also goes faster if you complain about women being evil and stupid on the computer.

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          When you find a (rare!) female online, you must protect her at all costs. She will be surrounded by ne’er-do-wells and men of ill-intent. You are her knight. She is your lady. You must never doubt yourself in this. Nature will take its course.

          That’s when you start negging her.

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    If you like each other and you share most values, there is your partner. If your partner is good looking as well; great for you guys!

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    The upper one depicts the guys around me. I can go through the lower one, but the result is usually this.