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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • Yeah, I personally despise cooking. I’ll do anything to get my meal the quickest and with the least amount of effort and mess possible. I don’t see the big deal. If people want to cook from scratch, go ahead. I’m just not going to be the one to do it. Why does it matter if one person prefers to cook one way and one person prefers the other?

    Edit: If it’s specifically pancake mix that OP’s wife prefers, maybe there is something about the flavor that she likes better with it. My brother also weirdly prefers instant mashed potatoes over homemade…even if he is not the person making them. With certain things, some people just have a preference it seems.





  • I don’t do autopsies at my current job, but I have been trained to do so in school. Overall, I have not done very many autopsies at all in comparison to many peers in my field. I would not feel comfortable doing one on my own at this point due to lack of experience. I never really saw that many that were particularly sad tbh, but there were several that stood out to me.

    1. Someone who died of suicide. The autopsy itself wasn’t overly depressing tbh, just fairly routine, but the person had left a suicide note. It was read aloud to us. To hear about all the pain that person was going through and to hear them talk about things about themselves that I knew were untrue really made me almost start crying tbh. They had family members who loved them, but they had felt that they were a burden to their family and killed themselves.

    2. A teen who died of lymphoma. I can’t remember if they had just turned 18 or they were about to, but it was sad to hear of such an innocent life cut so short in such an unfair way. I have not done autopsies on anyone younger, but I know people who have.

    3. A woman who died suddenly around Christmastime of a pulmonary embolism. There wasn’t much to the case that got to me, but I remember noting that her nails were painted in a festive red and green. It indicated to me that she had been looking to enjoy the holidays, but that she never ended up getting to experience them with her loved ones. When many people perform an autopsy, there is a distinct emotional separation many of us have from the decedent and a “real” human being, if that makes sense. But little things like that remind you that these were real people with real lives and real emotions and real hopes and dreams.

    Honestly, most autopsies I have seen/done were on older/elderly people who either died of natural causes or alcoholism. There was also occasional drug overdose deaths who tended to trend a lot younger. It never made me feel all that bad if someone had died older tbh because they had a chance to live their lives. It’s the younger ones that were always more notable.



  • 2 hours each day?? Goddamn that is incredibly intense. I don’t know how you keep that up.

    I don’t have a weight loss tip, but an exercise tip. In March, I challenged myself to start running. I used a free app to follow a milestone guide (on Android it’s called Just Run). Well, the app suggested that you have at least one rest day in between runs to let your body rest and repair. At first, I wasn’t going to listen to it and I was going to skip some rest days.

    But then I realized that having rest days mentally helps me so much more. I had tried to pick up exercising in the past, but it never stuck because I was trying to go every day and I hated it. Letting myself have one to two rest days (but ideally no more) in between each workout day helps me mentally stick with it and keep going. I’ve never been as consistent at something like this. Allowing myself to rest…both physically AND mentally has helped me to both stick with it and prepare for the workout days. I would encourage you to think about this.

    My goal wasn’t weight loss though so I can’t help so much with that part. They do say you can’t exercise away a bad diet though, so don’t go into exercising expecting to lose weight. In fact, exercising has actually made me want to eat more not less. The basic idea is just calories in = calories out…but some types of foods are more filling and energy efficient than others…proteins and veggies are better than bread and other carbs (but bread is delicious so I feel you).

    Good luck, man.


  • I’m in the US. I got a broad science degree for undergrad, hoping to go into med school. Well, I didn’t end up choosing that path, so the degree I had ended up with was not particularly useful for getting a decent job. I knew I needed different education to get to where I wanted to be, but I wasn’t sure what path I would need to take.

    Eventually I decided to go back to get a specialized healthcare master’s degree. The first year is book work. The second year is hands on training. My degree and subsequent certification is required for the work that I do. In the US, many healthcare jobs require very specialized education and certification and/or licensure. I have a lot of student loan debt now, but it was absolutely worth it for me to have a decent career making what I feel is decent money.

    The “prestige” of the university does not matter for my field. I went to a local public university for my undergraduate degree. Only so many schools throughout the country have my graduate program, so I ended up going to a relatively small private school.


  • I mean maybe but I think more than likely I’m just lazy. It seems the internet diagnoses everyone with ADHD nowadays. If everyone has ADHD then does anyone really have it? I think it’s a pretty normal human thing to have difficulty doing things you don’t want to do.

    My older brother has it and it’s much more obvious that he does. I have no issues paying attention or sitting still or anything like that…whereas he will get stuck on things and stop paying attention. Homework and chores are just not particularly fun for me or anyone lol.