• Stalinwolf@lemmy.ca
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    9 months ago

    I don’t honestly know why it feels so weird. I guess maybe because it feels a little self-serving and silly. Like, asking for a massage serves a function to relieve muscle tension. But asking for stimulating tickles on my arm makes me feel self-conscious for some reason.

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      9 months ago

      Please tell her. I’m sure she will be glad to know that you like it, and will do it more often.

      For me it’s the opposite, light touches give me discomfort, and firm touches with pressure are comforting from a sensory experience. Talking about it with your partner is really important.

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        9 months ago

        I second telling her!

        And I’m also one for firm squeezes instead. Light touches make me overstimulated. All the light touches for my partner instead!