Have you considered beehaw? Their primary focus is to “be nice”

It’s a Stepford kind of “nice”.

For example, I once referred to a bigoted minister as a “moron” and was accused of using “ableist” language.

After a couple more similarly annoying incidents, I left.

Maybe “we” shouldn’t be so intrusive; this is a perfect example of Hexbear-style behavior that pisses people off.

I provided plenty of context in my comments above.

When I mentioned the distro that I use in the Linux community there, I got a bunch of sarcastic replies because OMG it looks like Windows.

To be fair, the person I had mentioned before seemed reasonably intelligent but unreasonably hostile.

Look, I really appreciate your numerous posts and comments in the RedditAlternatives subreddit, promoting Lemmy.

As for me, it’s Discuit and local Lemmy feeds because I prefer that village vibe.

but it might be helpful if rather than just alluding to some comment that got deleted, you posted what the actual content was.

I can’t recall the exact wording of my comment, but the gist of it was that three celebrities were protesting an attempt to bar Israel from a music contest because of the ongoing genocide. I pointed out that the three celebrities were Jewish, so it was kind of cynical for them to do that. Those who upvoted understood what I meant, but then someone else accused me of antisemitism – because I didn’t specifically identify them as “Zionist”.

How am I supposed to know whether they’re Zionist? As far as I know, they’ve never publicly identified themselves as such, and it could be perceived as offensive if I did.

I notice you didnt mention being banned.

No, I wasn’t. Hopefully you’ve read the two items I had posted before, which pretty much validated how I felt about what I’d experienced, and why I left.

Listen, if you like Hexbear, fine; that’s your business. I don’t.

most .world threads, which end up being incredibly hostile, childish, and ignorant

Agreed, and that’s why I also avoid them (and Beehaw, Hexbear and .ml).

because its rude as hell to go into someones safe space and start acting like you know better or being dismissive of their beliefs. Especially when you dont actually want a well reasoned answer, you just want to stir shit.

You’re running on a lot of assumptions.

I made a comment that had nothing to do with any of that. It received quite a few upvotes (10+), then someone misread it and accused me of antisemitic dog whistling, which was not the case. In other words, they were stirring up shit and making a bad-faith argument.

So I clarified my position, then other users piled on, the mod(s) deleted my comments, and I left.

And the user who made that accusation had made what could be perceived as an anti-Italian remark in a comment a few days before. My paternal grandparents were Italian. Needless to say, I was a bit upset that this person didn’t follow the very strict standards that they held me to.

(By the way, Blahaj is also an LGBTQ+ safe space. The difference is, they’re not assholes.)

Feel free to check my post history here; stirring up shit is not my style.

In the meantime, I’ll leave you with some recommended reading, here and here.

Hi there!

Speaking of which, I was in a discussion about that yesterday:

I specifically avoid .ml and .world because the collective behavior (i.e., hostility, downvote trolling, etc.) is so much like Reddit.

Beehaw, Hexbear and Blahaj have all disabled downvotes, but Blahaj is the only one that’s decent, which is why I’m here.

(I would link directly to these if I could, but am having issues with that.)

For what it’s worth, Discuit is also a generally friendly place.

And pretending to care about it didn’t cost them anything anyway.

But after Jan. 20, they’re probably afraid that it might.

They’ve had that name since 2012, before being a trans ally was fashionable. So I suppose you could say they’re pioneers.

Or less government but only when I say so Jesus.

For what it’s worth, Discuit is open source and nonprofit; I’ve been there for over a year.

More than two-thirds of Mormons are Republican, so it might be the same Jesus.

Still, I couldn’t imagine either version hanging out with the “in” crowd.

Shakey questions?

You might want to correct the spelling error, otherwise it might be mistaken for a pizza inquiry.

Watch your step, otherwise you might end up knee-deep in enshittification.

He supposedly hung out with outcasts, so who knows?

That’s a different Jesus, though – Republican Jesus.

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