✨sparklepower💥

this is a tough week for me. i got laid off last week after working for 4 years at that company. there are so many things that i am excited to do, now that i have the time, but i am feeling mentally and emotionally exhausted from dealing with the layoffs that have been happening for months. it’s time for me to rest and recharge now, but i don’t quite know how to do that, so i’m trying to figure that out. i am struggling with a lot of self-doubt and a critical inner voice. it’s hard to stay kind and motivate myself when i feel this way.

i joined beehaw and bluesky in the same week. i think it’s fun! lots of artists and indie game devs on there. i didn’t use twitter and don’t really like mastodon, so i don’t have any point of comparison. seems to me that moderation is lacking and/or apathetic. there’s been a heavy focus on US political issues. there’s a lot of stuff that i don’t want to see, but i mute often and that has improved my browsing experience. it’s been more friendly and welcoming than pretty much any other social media site i’ve tried so far. i also do not prefer microblogging platforms, but i’ve been having such a hard time with hateful comments across various platforms in the past few months, bluesky has been refreshing for me in that sense.

i just let myself space out. it usually lasts only a few minutes and then something will catch my interest. sometimes the brain just needs some time to take in the surroundings.

yes

i just kept pushing the x in the top right corner for a few weeks, then it gave me the 3-2-1 countdown, and then finally it blocked me from viewing any more videos until i disabled my ad blocker. i disabled uBlock origin, refreshed, re-enabled it again. no more ads since i did that.

this is exciting! 🐝

thanks for the update, i’m still clicking the x in the top right corner and continuing on my merry way

i just clicked the x in the corner and continued on my merry way 🙂

ahh okay, i think this is different then, because i saw it on new comments and i didn’t see anything in their profiles. it’s possible that the different apps display different information, which is a whole other thing i don’t have time to deal with 😅

i’m not sure. if someone’s been banned from my instance, would i still be seeing them around? doesn’t really make sense to me.

Hi Thelsim, sure I’m happy to experiment with you. BTW I am using the Sync for Lemmy app for browsing. I haven’t checked if things work differently on the Beehaw PWA.

On one of the previous social media sites I was using, there were a number of users who would chase and hunt down other users across various social media platforms to harass and bully. They mainly seem to target queer or trans women.

This past week I started to see a new icon beside usernames that I haven’t seen before. It’s a little person with a 🚫. I searched online to find out what it means, and was not able to find any documentation about it. I assumed that it means this person has blocked me.

I came here to beehaw after having several negative experiences on other social media platforms. There’s another website that uses a similar (incomplete) method of blocking. Someone used it to bully me by blocking me and making sure to post everywhere so that I would see the block symbol everywhere I go.

Sure I could just block them right back, and I have been doing so. But in realizing that people I have blocked are aware of me doing so, I feel that blocking ppl on lemmy is not so much a safety feature as I had previously thought.

I’m aware that creating and maintaining a social media platform is a huge undertaking, but I am also annoyed that so many of these devs creating the tools do not seem to care at all about their users’ safety and wellbeing.

your life is about to get a whole lot more fun!

greeting my cats when we see each other

listen, imagine a world where random people don’t roll up on beehaw and tell them how to run their shit. just imagine!

i do that too! well i used to. admittedly i don’t browse all/new very much anymore because some people really do try to make it difficult for people to browse and find new content.

for me, it’s not so much about the scamming aspect of it, it’s more that the spam drives people away and dilutes the feed. people put in effort to post relevant articles that won’t get seen/discovered because of all the spam. it sucks.

i definitely think it’s possible. anything has the potential to grow and change if we choose to prioritize it.

“you are not entitled to nice”

a few months ago, on a different social media website, i posted something controversial (which IMO should not be controversial, anyways) and a friend made a very similar post. my friend was assumed to be a white man, while i was assumed to be a BIPOC woman. he received praise for his post and i did not see any criticisms of his views. my post was immediately criticized. various users told me that my drama wasn’t welcome here, i’m attention seeking, etc. when i asked one user why they were being so hostile to me, they responded with the quote above.

this was just one of the many demonstrations of misogyny that i’ve faced in the past 3 months online. it’s tiring as hell to deal with it.

i can’t keep up with the blocking and reporting. the same spam keeps showing up. i suppose i could just fuck off of gaming@kbin and get my gaming news and complain about unity elsewhere.

thank you for speaking up, Chris <3 please look into EMDR therapy, it has been incredibly effective for me, specifically for coping with extreme visual imagery.

the internet has a serious culture problem. people enjoy this shit. so many people turn a blind eye to things that make them slightly uncomfortable. i think ppl need to face consequences.

body shaming. making fun of small boobs, big boobs, uneven boobs, put your nipples away, etc. you’re always too skinny or too fat. the perception that women need to be protected.