I’m with you. I hosted my own mail server for about five years before giving up, and it irritates me when folks say it’s not that bad.
Even with perfect DKIM and DMARC configurations, spam filter lists would add me silently and repeatedly, and I’d frequently have to go through their processes to remove my domain. Then Google would sometimes start treating me as spam too, or outright deny email delivery, requiring some tweak or another to enable delivery.
It was a constant battle, one in which you don’t always know when you’re losing since nobody reaches out to tell you when you’ve been blocked. It was exhausting.
Giving up and moving to Proton was a sad moment. I really wanted to stay as limited as possible in my dependence on other tech companies, but email just wasn’t reasonable for me at all.
I’m with you. I hosted my own mail server for about five years before giving up, and it irritates me when folks say it’s not that bad.
Even with perfect DKIM and DMARC configurations, spam filter lists would add me silently and repeatedly, and I’d frequently have to go through their processes to remove my domain. Then Google would sometimes start treating me as spam too, or outright deny email delivery, requiring some tweak or another to enable delivery.
It was a constant battle, one in which you don’t always know when you’re losing since nobody reaches out to tell you when you’ve been blocked. It was exhausting.
Giving up and moving to Proton was a sad moment. I really wanted to stay as limited as possible in my dependence on other tech companies, but email just wasn’t reasonable for me at all.