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Cake day: August 26th, 2024

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  • Depends on what it is. Like for pizza, I do go to the big chains sometimes but I prefer the local pizza places more. But the prices are insane!

    Pizza place down the road wants $30 for a simple large pepperoni pizza. But Dominos will only charge me around $12 for the same size pizza with more toppings.

    A local Mexican restaurant does pizzas and I’ve been going there more because their pizzas are the absolute best I’ve ever tasted and they’re cheap at around $10 for a large. You simply cannot beat it any way you try.

    But it’s hard because of this. Either local places are too expensive or just aren’t as convenient. I hate to say it, but it’s convenient to go into a place like Walmart and get both groceries and electronics and furniture all in the same trip, not to mention the cheaper prices. But there’s also other factors too like peace of mind. I bought some clothes from Target recently in another city and took them back for a refund to my local Target and had no grief. Also, if I don’t have the receipt, they have the ability to look up my card and find my purchase and refund. I also have peace of mind knowing they have blanket policies they follow. 90 days means 90 days for all their stores.

    Whereas a local place may tell you 7 days, but is it really? Some places can be more lenient and go beyond the 7 days and some will pretend they never made such a promise. Such is the case for this place down the road from me that is a small, locally owned outlet place that resells stuff and they tell you 7 days and tell other people a different policy and then sometimes don’t honor it at all. Even if one of the Targets denies my return, I’ll go across town and try another Target and maybe get an employee who just doesn’t give a shit and get my stuff done. Happened to me with a bank and a manager who was doing some illegal shit and not letting me withdraw my money. I reported her and the bank and they did get investigated and eventually apologized to me for the manager, but that was months later. And the point was that I went across town and did my legal transaction without issues there. A local bank with one branch could have denied me and I’d have been out and waiting on the government or a lawyer to strongarm them into doing what they legally are supposed to do.

    And another thing I realized years ago is that I as a minority may have issues in small towns where they don’t like people who look like me. Local restaurant legally can’t not serve me because they’re racist pricks but may do something like jack up the prices on me or be rude to me to discourage me from staying. But try that in a chain like Dennys and corporate will knock that shit off quick. They don’t want lawsuits and the negative publicity that comes with it all and will fire those racist pricks from representing their brand. I have peace of mind knowing that I can go into a Walmart and less likely to deal with discrimination. Though….the recent news about large chains wanting to make “personalized”/surge pricing is one of those downsides that a local place will likely never be able to do because they don’t have the technology for it or the manpower to maintain such a system.

    Conclusion for me has been that I’m grateful both exist. But online retailers like Amazon I think are a bigger threat we should be worried about. Your local government can do something about both local and big businesses but can’t do much about online retailers fucking you over. And online retailers are causing brick and mortar to close at larger rates than ever before. It’s depressing seeing so many businesses, both small and big, close down and shopping malls become ghost towns.





  • Probably a direct link to the home network so the camera looks like it’s on the same network.

    I’ve thought of and tried this for my VR headset to my home in a similar manner. The VR headset will only stream from my gaming PC if it’s on the same network and so I’d hope to use a VPN to tunnel into my network when not at home to play remotely. I’ve not gotten this to work, but this sounds like a similar hope for OP with a camera.





  • Ha, I still have my IBM ThinkPad but it has never had a working battery in its life with me. The hinge on one side is also still cracked and I could never properly close it.

    Was my first laptop in the mid-2000’s running Windows 95. I got a USB 1.0 Ethernet adapter so I could surf the web on the DSL line we had at home before we finally upgraded to a wireless router.

    Good times. On MySpace, ripping music to the 4GB IDE HDD I had into MusicMatch (before I learned about iTunes), checking news for Halo 3, trying to play games…




  • It really depends on a lot of factors. The following questions are not ones I’m expecting you to answer, but questions that would affect this decision: What kind of trauma was it? How long ago was it? Is it likely the trauma could reappear on a second visit (example: if it was due to a war and the war is still ongoing, going back would not be a good idea)? What is the reason for going back, is it to overcome the fear, face it head on, etc.?

    Depending on the severity of the trauma, this may be an answer best looked into with a professional, who can guide you on when and how it would be best to go back, or if going back is even something you should do. It simply may not be a good idea to do, at all. Or the way in which you originally planned to do it may not be the best idea for one reason or another that you may have overlooked but a professional could point out.

    If it’s not that severe of a trauma that you feel needs a professional, I think the other person here is right, to go with someone, someone who you can trust to confide this with and tell them your plan. That you had something traumatic happen and you want their presence for moral support. But be careful not to expose them to the same sort of trauma too if the area is still dangerous enough for that to happen a second time.



  • It was hard for me to start too and still is, to be truthful.

    But what I do is set a small goal and stick with it.

    I reallllyyyyyy don’t want to go to the gym after work, but I force myself to go for just 30 minutes. When I first started, I would just ride the exercise bike at the gym for 30 minutes. That quickly turned into a competition, of sorts for me. Sure, I just hit 30 minutes, but I’m at 9.7 miles, why not stick around to hit 10 miles?! Oh I just hit 10 miles, but I’m at 34 minutes…might as well stay on for one more minute….etc.

    I have a small bit of OCD (for lack of a better term) so I use that against me for my benefit in this way.

    But even if you don’t have that OCD-like mentality, you can still go for 30 minutes and do something and then you might get into the zone and branch out to other exercises. Even if it’s not a gym, it can happen with other things. Go for a hike somewhere may have you thinking you should start biking and come back here for the trail that is perfect for biking. You go to the local park to walk and start seeing people doing other exercises that intrigue you. Etc.

    I have moved from exercise bike to stairs now. I do 10 minutes and I am sweating and then go do some weights. I have the momentum at that point to actually lift and hit real goals, stretching beyond what I am comfortable with because now drenched in sweat and okay with pushing myself further to really extend that burn. Whereas before I would try lifting and I wouldn’t actually do much because I didn’t feel comfortable pushing myself too far. Something to do with sweating for me, I guess.

    But as I said, I still have days where I don’t want to. And I will sometimes just go for 30 minutes. And that’s fine! Staying active and moving should be the goal to keeping out of being in the slumps.

    Just get out there and do something and set a small goal for yourself to start.






  • Biting my nails. I’m not even sure how or when I quit it.

    I remember when I was younger and one of my mom’s cousins told me she would buy me anything I wanted if I stopped biting my nails. I think it was around that time I did but I’m not totally sure. I do remember that I didn’t see her often but the next time I saw her, I did stop and she didn’t buy me the LEGO set I asked her for.

    I see her every now and then (this is like 15-20 years later) and I’m always tempted to ask her about that old ass LEGO set she never got for me that I really wanted 😂