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  • Maybe I’m a gloomy person in a very unfortunate part of the world, but it’s wild to me that someone thinks like that and not think immediately in sexual violence, kidnapping, human trafficking, etc. The standard of beauty near me is whiteness, of course, and beautiful white girls disappear a lot more than they should given the percentage they are among the population. Yes, I’m close to a sexual trafficking hot spot.

    And for men there’s less danger but it’s also not perfect. Nobody’s safe in the times being…

    And it doesn’t have to be crime, regular people often get a grudge over those things! Envy and resentment are powerful emotions. Also, there will always be the assumption that life was indeed easier for you and that you don’t deserve the fruits of your efforts. These ones may seem like trivial social conflicts but, in a psychologically vulnerable person, they can be crushing. (Let’s say, a guy loses his friends because they’re all musicians and they think he got an offer unfairly because of his looks and they think he’s some kind of “sell-out” or poser, but maybe our guy has been dealing with depression already and now he’s mega depressed).

    It’s probably easier in average, but… yeah, the world is big and there are a lot of contexts.

    I don’t like money nor I’m overly interested in it, but it’s probably the cheat-code this person is thinking about. People with money can fake their looks (surgeries are crazy these days), can buy popularity, can buy careers, can buy many many things. If you don’t care about authenticity and only care about the results or the appearance, money is the answer. Just be an aware narcissist and know your limits. For example, if you buy a position of power in the tech industry, but are not very smart, do not give a complicated conference or you’ll show the truth (e.g., Elon Musk and the dozen of times he’s been exposed as a pretender, even in games).

    Yeah…






  • So… I’m not an expert on the brain, but I love to read about mental health, and I’ve learnt that the brain craves that level of stimulation when things aren’t right (outside, inside, or both). It may be an addiction, a cope for depression, hormonal imbalances, etc. Maybe many things at once. But I assure you the solution to boredom, the craves, the feeling of nothing being enough, and more, is not sex (not even relationships, although they might help when you’re in your way to recovery).

    Seeking a good health (mental and physical) is all we can do to feel good at the individual level, honestly. All other paths (fame, power, sex, drugs…) are really traps, or that has been my experience and the conclusion I also reach from my readings. I know it’s not easy, not only emotionally but also on other aspects (money, finding the problems, finding solutions or treatments, etc.), but it’s a bet you can place outside the Kurt Cobain option. I really think it’s worth the tries (in plural, probably).