Seconding Matrix, if you like the idea of chat rather than forum post format. You can also use the account in the Matrix network at large, quite a few techy hobby groups there, and of course one-to-one chat.

Endless Sky is wonderful, though the mobile version is a bit clunky (not even an “official” version afaik, but stitched on the ongoing-development FOSS game).

According to Wikipedia, the planetary boundaries -concept has been around since 2009, with some renaming and one variable change (“chemical pollution” to “novel entities”. The original Nature (feature) paper that I dug up doesn’t describe the methodology, but that it hasn’t faced major criticism so far would suggest it’s pretty valid for the kind of tool that it is.

I may be slightly envious.

Clay teapot.
Aged sheng pu’erh tea cake.
A good steep of a dan cong tea (so rare).
Live opera experience.
Vegetable patch.
Slushie.
My favourite pair of shoes (I did).
Alpaca/silk dress (yup).
Orgasm.

To be fair I always wanted more than one cat, just had to start with one.

Device-wise, have you considered separating your project and personal computer? You could coreboot a small light Chromebook as a personal, ultraportable device, and get a hefty laptop or even a desktop for the hard stuff.

Chatwise, there’s Matrix, XMPP and SimpleX at least. And Briar and Session. But Signal with its phone number registration is the easiest for others to jump to.

And yes, it’s a constant balancing act between privacy and convenience… and the IA of the security triad, and open source principles. Just like with most things, there’s no perfect solution, you just learn to live with the least bad ones.

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To me the value has come mostly from “ok, so it sounds to me you are saying that…” and the ability to confirm that I haven’t misunderstood something (of course with current LLMs both the original answer and the verification have to be taken with a heaping of salt). And the ability to adapt it on the go to a concrete example. So, kind of like a having a teacher or an expert friend, and not just search engine.

Like the last time I relied heavily on a LLM to help/teach me with something it was to explain the PC boot process and BIOS/UEFI to me, and how it applied step by step on how successfully deal with USB and bootloader issues on an “eccentric” HP laptop when installing Linux. The combination of explaining and doing and answering questions was way better than an encyclopedia. No doubt it could have been done with blog posts and textbooks, and I did have to make “educated guesses” on occasion, but all in all it was a great experience.

Yup! Even just LUKSing a partition is hacky. And I lose things often, so it’s an important thing to me.

I didn’t realise iodé supported relocking on FP4. I don’t suppose it’d also happen to support microG in work profile only, deleted from the personal profile?

Because I’d love to return to ethical hardware from Graphene/Pixel, and the lack of FDE on Ubuntu Touch really rubs me the wrong way.

Yes, please and thank you!

Don’t get me wrong, Graphene would still be my choice for privacy & security. But what started out as a quest for privacy has somehow morphed to include FLOSS idealism, even AOSP derivatives feel “too google” now and I feel bad carrying a Pixel.

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1. “Easy and painless” depends on your point of view, and we here tend to be biased. For example, just a couple of months ago I had to explain to “a normal person” how to make backup copies of a folder to a pen drive. She did not want additional backup software (and I still don’t know if W10 would have had the functionality out-of-the-box). Copypasting files was too difficult. In the end she decided to go with “save as”, which sounded like a horrible idea to me, since she’couldn’t remember how to open anything in Word that wasn’t in the recently used list when starting the software, and she is going to lose track of which file is which at some point. I doubt it would be “easy and painless” for people like her, who are very common outside our little bubble.

2. Making someone change their opinion is not a sprint, but a marathon. State your opinion openly when relevant, don’t get into an argument, let it brew, mention it again when it comes up, live as you “preach”. That person I mentioned? Happily using Signal with me. Eager(!) to try Linux once W10 support runs out. I’ve told her I’ll install Mint DE on my laptop and loan it to her for unhurried testing and learning this summer while having her familiar backup to lean on if it gets difficult, and to install the same on her own computer when the support runs out, if she still wants me to.

Sleep apnea diagnosis and CPAP.

As a woman who’s been that down: IMHO you can just empathize, but admit you don’t have the capacity to deal with her needs. That you wish her well, but for your own mental health, you can’t be her rock. She may well know she has trust and relationship issues, and is telling you for the very reason that she wants you to walk away now if you can’t cope, rather than break her heart later.

Of course it’s also possible she’s has a personality disorder, rather than “just” depression, anxiety and trauma. So don’t let yourself be guilted back.

In any case, for both your sakes, and I hope this does not need saying: No sex.

Edit: Based on your responses you’re barely acquaintances. No action necessary, just let it drop.

Fair enough, it does suck. I for one remain unconvinced by your sources, but respect greatly both that you provided them, and your opinion as equivalent to any “based on my non-objective experience…” just like my own. Thank you.

You clearly stated you didn’t want to have someone comb through you papers and argue, and their value as evidence is obvious to anyone who bothers to take a look, so the reaction of “nothing will come out of continuing this conversation” is quite understandable. I returned to say thank you for posting sources, but since you seem to take this as some kind of “stunned them to silence”…

The first two sources apparently refer to the same study; Okami 1995 is mostly literature review, methods, and intermediary results, while Okami 1998 is the final results.

Okami 1995: “Consistent with the cross-sectional retrospective literature (and with our expectations), no harmful main effects of these experiences were found at age 17-18. […] Taken as a whole then, effects are few, but generally beneficial in nature.”

Okami 1998: “No harmful “main effect” correlates of the predictor variables were found.”

So I fail to see how they’d support your point.

The last one, the Yahoo article, is not a study nor does it refer to any.

Okami 1998 also had a link to Lewis 1988, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/3421828/: “The results suggest that childhood experiences with exposure to nudity and sleeping in the parental bed are not adversely related to adult sexual functioning and adjustment. In fact, there is modest support that these childhood experiences are positively related to indices of adjustment.”

Recognition of pre-existing bias: I’m Finnish, and this felt like an attack on family saunas.