I’ve been with my boyfriend since 2024. Our relationship has to be on the down low / an open secret because dating isn’t permissible among his people. His family says they really like me, but they’d never accept me as his wife since I’m not Arab, maybe as a second wife, but the first wife has to be someone they approve of. I don’t want to be a second wife. I’m with him despite all of this because he treats me great, fucks me good, and gets me (he’s very open-minded and chill, and I feel fully comfortable with him). But I know he won’t go against his family for me because of $$$.
Not only does the “relationship” have no future, as he won’t go against the wishes of his racist family, but if I were you I’d feel insulted and used. He knew all of this in advance (he knows who his parents are and what they think and what his decision regarding this would be too) and he still went this far with you? Let’s just hope he’s immature and pre-PFC development, else he’s just plain evil. Come on, V… and, btw, every man has a dick, stop focusing so much on the sexual aspect of things. I know you’re young but there’s no point in wasting time and accumulating mistakes and bad experiences just for the fun of it.
TIL having a relationship without the intention of marrying the person is ‘plain evil’.
Without the plan of staying with that person in a committed long-term relationship, knowing that the other person very much wants that? Certainly.