I think disabled is fine to refer to someone, at least that’s how folks in my circles think. Everyone is different of course. I am happy to hear it from your party; it has been nearly impossible for me to find any safe or accessible events, political or otherwise- mask blocs are pretty much the only thing I can safely attend anymore- and my wife and I advocating for me usually falls on deaf ears at best. What tends to happen is people we knew just stop hearing from us, but it’s never really our choice. No one seems to interrogate this which feels very bad. It’s one thing to stop showing up to various events due to lack of accommodations, it’s a whole other thing to realize your friends and loved ones just wouldn’t care if you disappeared.