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  • Flirting can mean a lot of different things and it can be taken differently by different parties, it’s going to be tough for anyone here to diagnose it beyond the fact that you don’t seem to feel comfortable with it. That’s what’s important.

    For future reference:

    If you find out something about your partner/relationship that doesn’t comport with your original understanding, and you’re not OK with it, you need to re-evaluate the whole relationship.

    Whether that’s infidelity, lifestyle changes, identity changes, secrets, lies, values, kinks, etc… You need to either leave or figure out some ground rules you can both live with.

    Best of luck.






  • In a way it’s fair to say that every moment changes every moment that happens after. The entire global economy is still reeling from Reaganomics ffs.

    I lived through all these. 2001 and 2008 were horrible, but sort of felt like a normal kind of horrible. Recessions and terrorism were things I’d seen before. It was only the scale that made those anomalous.

    From my (American) perspective 2016 was when shit started getting very weird. We were relatively stable, relatively prosperous, foreign wars were tapering off… And half the country decided that a game show host was her best bet going forward.

    Then it started snowballing… Bill Cosby’s a rapist, there’s a global pandemic, Kanye put out a pro-Hitler song, Pete Davidson is a sex symbol that no starlet in Hollywood can resist, The secretary of health had his brain eaten by worms, everything you own or use became a subscription service, The fear Factor guy became a political king maker, The first lady has a crypto scam that everyone’s kind of okay with, we created AI but it’s only good for spam and rule 34 tweets, we decided political corruption isn’t a crime if you brag about it, America’s war machine is being turned on its cities… Oh and the US is building full on concentration camps.

    It’s a very strange time even compared to occupy, The tea party, or Bush riding out 9/11 Reading a children’s book in an elementary school.


  • Imagine you’re finishing in 8k, so you want to shoot higher resolution to give yourself some options in reframing and cropping? I don’t think Red, Arri, or Panavision even makes a cinema camera with a resolution over 8k. I think Arri is still 4k max. You’d pretty much be limited to Blackmagic cameras for 12k production today.

    Plus the storage requirements for keeping raw footage in redundancy. Easy enough for a studio, but we’re YEARS from 8k being a practical resolution for most filmmakers.

    My guess is most of the early consumer 8k content will be really shoddy AI upscaled content that can be rushed to market from film scans.


  • Not every job is a great fit for someone with ADHD, but some of that is a learning curve as well. If you’re worried about it I’d recommend looking into the kinds of work that are more hands on, active, and varied.

    Beyond that, you don’t choose a job for life. You don’t even necessarily choose an industry for life. Most people will change jobs, industries, even entire careers once or twice. I’d expect people with ADHD probably more so.

    You look for something that aligns pretty well with what you want, while doing that you figure out what parts of it you’re good at or you like, then down the line you steer your career in a direction that aligns more with those things. You do that two or three times and you end up with a fulfilling career you may not have known existed at the outset.



  • Genuinely, there have been many people in my life who have needed help along the way. There’s no shame in this. Depression will tell you not to fix your depression.

    You can be living a totally “normal” life while on the cusp of crisis and not realize it. There is no harm in talking to someone about these feelings. I implore you.

    With that, you can call me whatever names you want, or talk about how weird or bad or whatever I am… I’m going to bow out here.


  • I didn’t say anything about deserve, I don’t really understand why you have it in quotes.

    I thought it was pretty clearly implied the problem was a mental health issue. I’m not a psychiatrist so I’m not qualified to say what the particular mental health issue is any more than I would be able to qualify or runny nose as a cold or allergies or a flu. I just know a symptom when I see it.

    A person that wants to determine what species do and do not “deserve” to exist is outside of my pay grade, but clearly unwell.




  • It’s getting worse sure. But we have no idea how bad it will get, or what the total effect will be. We have no idea what role technology will play in the future of this crisis, or if recovery would outpace models in the event we decided to take the problem seriously.

    Bear in mind that acid rain was a real crisis that was happening in the 80s and the hole in the Ozone was a real crisis that was happening in the 90s. When we made an honest effort to fix those problems… They got fixed.

    Also, we can guess at what species will or won’t fare well, but not how they’ll adapt or what else might thrive in a new environment.

    And yeah, it’s possible that temps will spike faster than we could ever imagine or deploy solutions and we’ll all bake to death in a sprawling global desert if we don’t all starve from the sweeping famine. I just have more faith in human ingenuity, and will than that.


  • Of course it did.

    If not for the courage and conviction of Vasily Arkhipov, civilization, and potentially humanity, may have ended in 1964. People had kids for 30 years under the very real threat of nuclear extermination. In the end it turned out pretty well.

    People had kids during the black plague.

    While a climate crisis is more than just a threat, we don’t know what’s going to happen. We have ideas, and models, and educated guesses… But not knowledge.

    I wouldn’t tell anyone to have kids if they don’t want to. But no one should plan their life around sparing a hypothetical person from the hypothetical struggles of a slow moving crisis we don’t fully understand.



  • Due to the inherently competitive nature of living in a society that competes for resources, many people assume that a kind, upbeat person will be easy prey for someone tough and pushy. They lack the emotional intelligence to understand that you can be both kind and assertive.

    In reality, you catch more flies with honey. Pretty much every study of game theory concludes that nice but assertive is the optimal strategy in any ongoing interaction. A nice person with a backbone is likely to have healthier boundaries, lower stress, and better relationships with people.