

Birthdays and the like used to feel inherently special as a kid, as an adult no longer and it just feels like another day. But I still like to celebrate because it’s a nice excuse to see people I care about or treat myself to something nice, or to just relax. I don’t believe we should always do things just because that is what is done, but this is one place I’m happy to just do things because the rest of society does and thinks I “should.” We get something nice out of it, and those who are not interested in celebrating are free to opt out (which I’ve done a few times too, and didn’t regret it.)
For example, I don’t think Valentine’s Day itself is all that important, but it’s a good reminder to pay attention to your loved ones and spend time with them, and because it is enough of a societal thing there are things done (think a couples’ dinner special at a restaurant or something) to help you do just that. So a lot of people do celebrate on the day. Some will celebrate on a different day to avoid higher prices on the day of the usual celebration. Some will totally disregard.
But that’s just me. It might be different for others.


The people at [email protected] and [email protected] and [email protected] would probably like to know about this. !thelittlethings seems to overlap in intent too, although it does not seem very active from what I see on my instance, so you might want to message the mod. Thanks, I really appreciate positivity communities.
part of why I appreciate it, mentions negativity and depressing stuff
Joy is resisting, especially if you are vulnerable to doomscrolling bad news about how people are treating folks like yourself without humanity, how you are going to be in the firing line next… if you are happy instead of constantly miserable from people treating you as lesser, that’s definitely not the will of certain powers that be. Examples of happy people who are like yourself are necessary too. Especially ones you can meet in your community instead of them being some story you read online, so you know it’s an achievable possibility for you too, not someone on the other side of the planet. Also, it means you are giving your time to yourself and your joy instead of endlessly getting stuck in distressing news loops and doing a tiny bit of enriching others via ad dollars.